From: Alex Ramonsky (alex@ramonsky.com)
Date: Thu May 23 2002 - 01:02:03 MDT
Amara Graps wrote:
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> Life is too precious, and time too, and it's not my way of living to
> think of using my precious time to categorize people on gender or race
> or religion any other category and assign them blame for the things that
> might have gone wrong in my life. That seems completely alien to me,
> something from a strange race that haven't evolved.
>
> A productive use of my time is to focus on fulfilling the vision I have
> of myself, and then putting myself in the context of the stream of flow
> of humanity and applying my vision in a larger context in space and
> time. It must start from the inside, though. That's the deep work
> of exploring one's own vast inner universe. Putting my inner visions
> into practice and into the stream of humanity is the next step. For me,
> some of this hard work is very spiritual.
>
> AMEN! : ) If more people came from this angle there would be a lot
> less emotionally-laden guilt / fear trips among us.
Having said that, some people are less emotionally mature than others,
and perhaps it's up to those who are to set an example to those who
aren't...it would be great if everyone woke up one morning and realised
that emotionally charged blame and personal attacks are never going to
achieve anything apart from slowing us down...but this isn't going to
happen. You either have the patience to put up with immaturity in the
hope that people will grow out of it, or you consider talking to such
people a waste of time. But at least you find out who is emotionally
capable and who isn't, and that is important if you want intelligent
friends.
For the rest, I've always believed we don't have time in a single life
to include such negative things -we don't even have enough time to do
all the good bits! Your own personal health and sanity matter more to
you than other people's emotional instability. From there, you can
choose to join in only those interactions which will benefit and
enlighten you; not leave you feeling depressed or pessimistic. The rest
depends on how sympathetic you feel towards those not quite so
emotionally mature as you.
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