From: Alex Ramonsky (alex@ramonsky.com)
Date: Mon Jul 08 2002 - 02:11:34 MDT
Amara Graps wrote:
>> [snip]
>> > For those of you/us that carry alot of pride, it's a worthwhile
>> > experiment to try to be vulnerable sometimes. It's just as
>> difficult to
>> > receive help as it is to ask for help. Only at that moment are one's
>> > defensive barriers down. The rewards are multiplied ntimes when
>> one is
>> > interacting with another person without the barriers. The
>> communication
>> > becomes sincere. Also, you might discover that many people gain
>> alot of
>> > inner joy from helping someone else or joining in a cause that they
>> > believe in too.
>
>> [alex]
>> That takes confidence, or trust, or blind faith...how do I tell if I'm
>> being over-confident, or gullible, or trusting?
>
> [amara]
> You do your best to be ready. Then you jump. Blindfolded. Can be
> frightening. Then you see the result. Some times you will know that
> you made a mistake. Other times you will know that you did exactly
> the right thing. Each time you learn, so you never lose. After all,
> if you're not making mistakes, then you are not trying and you are
> not living.
[alex]
...but if the first couple of times you get it wrong, the 'mistake' has
such grievious consequences that it becomes illogical to trust again.
The price of the mistake was too high to risk it happening again...no
matter how many 'interaction' buttons you get invited to press, one of
them might have the psychological equivalent of a nuclear arsenal
attached to it. Hmmm...so if I trust you, I'm saying 'I'm willing to
risk a fate worse than death here for no particular reason'? Does this
make me brave, gullible or deluded?
More important, what are the odds on mistakes vs. successful
interactions? : }
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