Samantha Atkins wrote:
> This is a very persistent male myth. And it makes a lot of sense
> from the male point of view and basic male hormonal wiring. It
> does not feel that way from this side often for many of us. Sex
> doesn't hit the same way on this side. There is much more
> involved. Sex drives manifest differently and have different
> ramifications. The normal generalities apply. Females need to
> know the partner is trustworthy and will stick around. Females
> have more emotional aspects to sexuality (as a generality) and
> so on. So on this side, just getting laid is not the primary
> interest. This is not to say we don't get horny and sometimes
> simply want to get laid just as much as guys do. But until the
> advent of reasonable contraception this was not so simple a
> proposition or one not fraught with possible repurcussions. Even
> with the pill it entails a lot more emotional complications
> generally for women than men.
>
> It is more difficult from this side to have sex just for sex
> sake. Or at least I find it so. If I can't let the person into
> my heart deeply then the sex part by itself is less fun that
> masturbation and much more troublesome.
>
> Being a changeling I was surprised how much difference the
> diffferent hormonal mix made and how quickly. For a very short
> while it was almost as much fun after the change as you
> envision. Then my head and heart began to change very rapidly.
> It has led me to an experential based belief that the hormones
> activate and inhibit a slew of built-in instinctual patterns as
> well as effectively rewiring the emotions differently. I believe
> this largely accounts for the actual versus the societally
> constructed difference in the genders.
>
> I have seen the reverse happen with female-to-male TS people I
> have known. I remember one saying that since he started
> testosterone he was so horny that he often feared he would go a
> utterly mad and do something totally uncouth.
>
> - samantha
Plus, a distressingly large number of women discover that some men "get their jollies" or "get their hooks into you" in
bad ways--"We've boinked, so you're my property now", "I have laid more pipe than Exxon!", "I got twelve bitches
pregnant. I am a BAD nigga, I got balls like Kareem", "I can make you come, that makes me Jesus".
I'd like to know more about what happens to FtMs in that department. If FtM were more common, would the role-reversal go
that far for some?
Thanks for your perspective!
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