re:PERSONALIZATION:
You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which
in fact you were not primarily responsible for.
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VICTIMIZATION
You see yourself as NOT the cause of some negative external event which
in fact you were primarily or somewhat responsible for.
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> COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS
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> ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING:
> You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance
> falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
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> OVERGENERALIZATION:
> You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.
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> MENTAL FILTER:
> You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively so
> that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of
> ink that discolors the entire beaker of water.
>
> DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE:
> You reject positive experiences by insisting they ``don't count" for
> some reason or other.
>
> JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS:
> You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite
> facts that convincingly support your conclusion.
>
> 1. Mind Reading: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting
> negatively to you, and you don't bother to check this out.
> 2. Fortune Teller Error: You anticipate that things will turn out
> badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an
> already-established fact.
>
> MAGNIFICATION OR MINIMIZATION:
> You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately
> shrink things until they appear tiny.
>
> EMOTIONAL REASONING:
> You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way
> things really are: ``I feel it, therefore it must be true."
>
> SHOULD STATEMENTS:
> You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn'ts, as if you
> had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to to do
> anything. ``Musts" and ``oughts" are also offenders. The emotional
> consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward
> others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.
>
> LABELING AND MISLABELING:
> This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing
> your error, you attach a negative label to yourself. When someone
> else's behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label
> to him/her.
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> PERSONALIZATION:
> You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which
> in fact you were not primarily responsible for.
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