Re: Terry McDeemott on Mary Kay's love affair

From: Tony Hollick (anduril@cix.compulink.co.uk)
Date: Mon Nov 17 1997 - 04:57:00 MST


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The Seattle Times, Today's Top Stories:

Terry McDermott:

LeTourneau and Blilie -- similar cases but different outcomes

Copyright 1997 The Seattle Times Company

Sunday, Nov. 16, 1997

mailto:tmcd-new@seatimes.com

     Mary LeTourneau, 35, a schoolteacher, has an affair with a 13-year-old
     boy, a former student of hers.

     The affair produces a guilty plea to charges of second-degree child
     rape. It also produces a baby and, last week, a suspended sentence.

     Mark Blilie, 42, a schoolteacher, has an affair with a 15-year-old girl,
     a former student of his.

     The affair produces a conviction for third-degree child rape and child
     molestation and four years in the joint for Blilie.

     What's wrong with this?

     I mean, other than the fact that both these people did horrible things,
     that they abused children and the hopes and trust of entire communities.

     What's wrong, of course, is the similarity of the situations and the
     vastly different outcomes.

     How did this happen?

     The answers are as simple as human history, and as complicated as the
     human heart.

     But here's a clue.

     One newspaper account of LeTourneau's sentencing hearing contained this
     passage:

     "During the sentencing, the mother of the boy forgave LeTourneau, who
     appeared in an aquamarine sweater, black pleated skirt and her hair
     pinned up with soft tendrils." She has frequently been described in
     other news accounts as blond and attractive.

     In case you're wondering, the phrase "soft tendrils" did not appear in
     any of the stories written about Mark Blilie. In fact, there was no
     physical description of him whatsoever, although judging from a
     photograph taken on the day of his sentencing, he is a tall, handsome,
     dark-haired man. The eattle Times published that photograph with a
     caption identifying him as "convicted child rapist Mark Blilie."

     The caption published with the photograph of Mary LeTourneau taken at
     her sentencing identified her as a "former teacher."

     I'm not trying to suggest that Blilie should have evaded prison or that
     LeTourneau should be sent there. I frankly don't know. But the
     circumstances of the two cases are so strikingly similar that you would
     think their sentences would be as well.

     Often, in cases like these, the histories of the accused individuals
     play a crucial role in sentencing. Neither Blilie nor LeTourneau had
     previous criminal histories.

     The chief difference is Blilie is a man, LeTourneau a woman.

     A fast-developing area of biology is spooling out ingenious Darwinian
     explanations of human sexual behavior: Men seek multiple sexual partners
     to increase their chances of reproducing; women seek them to set up a
     competition among sperm - may the best man win.

     Sexual desire, the theorists say, is physical. It is as weird and
     wonderful and perverse as the world. In some sense, we can't control the
     desires we have. As a species we're hard-wired for reproduction. It's
     what we live to do, seeking a sort of serial immortality. Our desires
     encourage us.

     I'd bet that 95 people out of a hundred would explain Mark Blilie's
     actions as a result of nothing more than sexual desire, inadequately
     constrained.

     LeTourneau has contended throughout her ordeal that her only defense is
     one from the heart.

     The boy was old and wise beyond his years. His own mother calls him an
     "old soul." LeTourneau says she fell in love with him, and although she
     acknowledges what she did was wrong, she says she loves him still.

     She says this does not excuse her actions, but might help explain them.
     Actually, no, it doesn't help explain them. In fact, in some ways it
     makes them even more confusing and disconcerting.

     Love, unlike desire, is a human invention. It is almost entirely a
     creation of culture and is in large part a product of intention.

     In some sense, it would be easier to accept LeTourneau saying she got
     carried away by rash and unfortunate desire. To say she loved the boy
     is to say she wanted to happen what did. It further mystifies everyone
     but her.

     We can accept the fact that some people are just plain bad. When they
     commit crimes, we understand that bad people do bad things.

     But when good people do bad things and do them on purpose, we are left
     without our normal, comforting rationalizations. It's very scary because
     in the end we are left to wonder:

     What about us?

     Terry McDermott's column usually appears Tuesday and Thursday.

     His phone message number is 515-5055.

     His e-mail address is: tmcd-new@seatimes.com

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<EOT>



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