From: Kathryn Aegis (aegis@igc.apc.org)
Date: Sun Mar 02 1997 - 12:34:37 MST
Robin Hanson:
>Most of us aren't
>so wealthy in friend-attracting features that we can insist on friends
>who share most of their deepest values. We're happy for you, but
>realize we may not all be as rich as you.
I don't know why you would assume that I would have an easier time
than other people finding true friends. My looks? I made one of the
closest friends of my life during the years spent recovering from a
crippling accident, and believe me I wasn't pretty to look at then,
or much fun to be with. My personality? Sure, I meet a lot of
people socially, but most of them wouldn't accept my independence or
outlook, so I don't pursue more than an acquaintence.
The bottom line for me is that I would rather not have any friends than
to have to pretend to be someone else to have one. Oddly, once I
made that decision, the search became easier. Yes, I am rich, and I
would be rich if I only had one friend in the world, because each
friend is a treasure. Treasure takes work to find, tho, and sometimes a
sacrifice or two. Treasure in abundance would have no real value.
Sin,
Kathryn Aegis
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