Re: less sex, more brains!

From: Samantha Atkins (samantha@objectent.com)
Date: Sat Jul 20 2002 - 03:02:56 MDT


John Grigg wrote:
> Anders wrote:

> Natasha wrote:
> Our structural, functional, and behavioral characteristic attachment to sex
> is enormous, as is an intentional attachment to being a proponent of
> "anti-sex".
> (end)
>
> Exactly. Sex is vastly more than simply engaging in the act for one, two hours every day(or however long). Our sexuality/self-hood permeates who we are, even if celibate.
>

Well, not quite. I have been able to turn off sexuality to a
very considerable extent for extended periods. It is extremely
liberating to watch the many intertwined aspects of sexuality
loosen. I chose not to go fully celibate for now but I know it
is quite doable and that it does not have to permeate our being
when celibate if one is fully at peace and ready for such a
practice. But the early stages can sometimes seem like sexuality
is even more intensely obvious and irresistable. Sex is deeply
intertwined but not insurmountable.

> Samantha wrote:
>
>>The sex itself is the least complicated part of it. All the
>
> attendant hooks, complications, anxieties, expectations,
> seeking, avoiding and so on are much more complex and can color
> (and apparently do for most people) much of life. Just letting
> go of the entire business now and then can be quite liberating.<
> (end)
>
> I actually think the "coloring" sex gives our lives can up to a point makes life richer. But I definitely see what you mean! lol When in college older friends warned me to "forget about women" and just focus on my studies. If it were only that easy! lol
>

It is a particular coloration. When less present there is
opportunity to see self and the world differently. That is what
is liberating about it. It isn't easy for sure for many of us at
least some of the time. But learning such self-discipline is
quite rewarding. It might also be necessary as/when we
transition off the biological level. It is an anchor for much
of our biologically oriented mind-stuff and holds in place quite
a lot of cultural conditioning.

> Natasha replied:
> Going on a sex fast can be liberating. Going on a food fast can be
> liberating. It's been a healthy experience for me over my life.
> (end)
>
> Celibacy is finally being accepted in this form and I am happy about that. Also, it is more acceptable now for people to be virgins and not be made to feel "uncool" about it. I don't like the idea of people being pressured prematurely into what should be(at its best) one of the most special things human beings do.
>

Yes.

- samantha



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