From: Lee Corbin (lcorbin@tsoft.com)
Date: Sat May 25 2002 - 18:42:19 MDT
Harvey graciously writes
> On Saturday, May 25, 2002, at 01:44 pm, Lee Corbin wrote:
>
> > A number of people are now quoting and re-quoting to the
> > effect that I consider men to be more valuable than women.
> > This is untrue. How did it get started?
> I think your above direct statement has done more to clear
> up this mess than all our previous heated messages
> going back and forth.
Thanks.
> This seems to stem from the lifeboat example and the roman soldier
> example. They may not have been as clear as you wanted, since many
> people misunderstood them. The discussion got more heated than
> necessary, because all parties involved seem to assume that the various
> misrepresentations were deliberate.
Yes, I'm guilty as charged.
> It is more likely in these cases that simple miscommunication has
> occurred. Reiterating one's case might be more direct than trying
> to argue whose fault a miscommunication was, or trying to prove bad
> intent.
Quite so. Explanations, I guess, still need to be sought from
time to time.
> OK. I retract this statement now that you have clearly stated that you
> do not propose this viewpoint. I certainly was among those who
> misunderstood your position.
Thanks.
> You seem to think that I deliberately misrepresented you,
When I first quoted the "final solutions" paragraph you wrote,
which was rather incidiary, and demanded an apology for all
those things, none was forthcoming. I got mad, which is always
a mistake, and thought that you were deliberately misrepresenting
me.
> Thanks. I think miscommunication is a common attribute of e-mail, and
> we all are making these mistakes on all sides. It is very difficult to
> keep track of everyone's exact viewpoints, and not misread between the
> lines. I think it is more important to try to remember that this is
> occurring and to not react emotionally or assume that the problem is
> deliberate. I, for one, will try to do better as well.
Very good. Hopefully this is now behind us, but I was so frazzled
this morning I made further bookkeeping errors, and will probably
have to apologize for them to someone. I also will try to do much
better in the future.
Lee
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