From: Adrian Tymes (wingcat@pacbell.net)
Date: Sat Jun 17 2000 - 12:07:20 MDT
Amara Graps wrote:
> Let's see if I can rephrase your first-date description in the way
> that you meant:
>
> On a first date you usually try a high-level conversation over a
> wide range of topics in order to see if she can keep up, or, in some
> cases, show her broader knowledge. (And in the process you learn
> about her successes, wit, etc.) Did I understand you correctly?
Mostly, but...
> 2) If you are trying to dazzle her, then she might not find the
> space or opportunity to state her opinion.
...how do you reach this possibility? Getting her to state her opinions
is the purpose of the above.
> I suggest that women you meet might repond much better to behavior
> that shows curiosity, interest, honesty, gentleness, vulnerability,
> humor, playfullness, consideration, and respect much more than a
> bold presentation of one's wide-ranging intellect and successes.
And trying to cop out of this by designing neural chips to guide my side
of the conversation along these lines (the "Cyrano" series, perhaps)
would be just a cop out, at least for the several years until said chips
actually exist, right? ^_-
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